I set up a session with Carla to get some clarity on a recent romantic interest. The background is that I have a crush on a man I know through a social softball league. I didn’t get a major vibe he was into me but a week ago we had a one-night stand and as those things go, it was left a little open ended. I assumed it was just a one-time casual thing, but I kept thinking about him.
He and I saw each other for the first time since the one-night stand and I went into it with such anxiety. I had been wondering if he regretted it, if he thought about it at all or if he would be interested in something more. We largely ignored each other for the first few hours and finally I had a chance to chat with him. It was friendly and pretty brief with no mention of said night together. Then after a few minutes he got up and never came back so I felt rejected and sad. I had to face that I had been thinking about this more than I thought I would, and my feelings were hurt. I wondered if he does this casual fling stuff a lot or at all? Did he like someone else (believing he liked another girl on my team), was his ex back in the picture? So many thoughts crept in that were causing me a lot of insecurity.
I always know Carla will give it to me straight no matter what her impressions are and I was ready to hear them. Even if the truth was harsh I was ready for it! All I gave her was his first name and birthdate. She was able to tap into many things I can already confirm.
-She said that his job is very important to him, and he has his act together in that way, takes a lot of pride in it. (Absolutely true, he talks passionately about his job and absolutely loves it).
-When I asked if he had a crush on my friend, she said that my friend is too busy being mad at another guy. (This is 100% true)! And that he is aware of the men she’s had flings with, so he’s not interested. (She has hooked up with 3 other guys).
-When asked about his ex she said that is very much done which I’ve also heard.
-She said that he is very self-deprecating which he totally is!
-She said he has this whole musician/biker look but he’s pretty sensitive overall. (Absolutely true)!
-That he’s more of a guy who hangs with the guys and doesn’t have a harem of ladies he flirts with around him.
She gave me advice on how to handle moving forward and that I need to be the one to open communication and take the lead, so I’ll have to leave another review to let you know how that goes as it has yet to happen.
Overall, she nailed the type of person he is, the dynamics of all involved and gave great advice on what needs to be cleared up in order to move forward. Feeling much better and have hope!
Keri
Chicago, IL